There are many examples of parallel parenting agreements and court orders. There needs to be highly structured guidelines and rules that ensure that each parent is absolutely clear regarding what they can and cannot do. So, some examples of parallel parenting include the following:
Parallel parenting examples demonstrate that there has to be highly structured arrangements to avoid conflict and misinterpretation whenever possible between parents who are engaged in high conflict co parenting.
Of course, in high conflict co parenting situations, a lot of time, parents breach the rules under which they are expected to behave. That is one of the many problems with high-conflict cases, particularly if you are doing parallel parenting with a narcissist.
In one case we dealt with at Pathway Legal, a father was so high-conflict and severely narcissistic that he was determined to destroy the child’s relationship with the mother. Because the father had a history of maligning the mother and attempting to turn the child against her, the court ordered that the parties not discuss the other parent in any way in front of the child. Despite the court order, the father would not refrain from embroiling the child in his campaign against the mother. The court gave the father many chances, finally stating that the father could have no further contact with the child. This was an extreme example of parental alienation and of a high-conflict parenting situation that was first a parallel parenting plan.
Rarely are cases this severe, however, co-parenting with a narcissist can be exhausting and it will put your kids into an never-ending cycle of turmoil. When co-parenting with a narcissist, sometimes the only way to parent effectively and give your child any peace is to enter into a parallel parenting plan. However, in this particular case the situation was so severe that it was against the child’s best interest to continue any kind of relationship with the father. Hopefully that won’t be your case.